What a Christian Woman Wants to Find in a Christian Man

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And here we go again, writing the latest of thousands of posts about what a Christian woman wants to find in a Christian man. Why am I doing this? Because times change, and the perception of women changes generation by generation. It is also a great reminder of what to look in ourselves in order to pursue the heart of the lady we want to pursue. Having healthy emotional relationships are a part of renewing our minds too; I guess (Rom. 12:2).

I’ve got the insight of some beautiful and godly women who gladly helped this humble writer-in-the-making to make this list, and, man, they spit fire!

Let’s start!

1- Please, be a real Christian: This is the Undisputed Champion of the World concerning things a Christian woman wants to fight in a man. Christian women want to be connected with someone who is connected with God. They want to keep closer to the God who saved them. This is the epitome of 2 Cor. 6:14-18: They desire to be led by a godly man, who can make them improve in their sanctification. Check some examples of feedback:  

·         “A heart that beats for God.” – Ana N.

·         “Love God over ALL things.” – Dahiana R.

·         “He needs to show me he really loves God.” –Silvia C.

·         “Honest with his Christian life, and a man who doesn’t focus too much into learning the Word of God, but into PRACTICE the Word of God.” – Merfy R. (Loved this one.)

2- Please, be mature: Women want NO-GAMES. They know what they need: someone who knows his position as a leader, as a husband, as a father, as a Christian, as a human being…They want someone emotionally stable and someone who knows his role. They want someone responsible:

·         “Someone coherent with his words and actions…” –Jenny M.

·         “A man who knows his role.” Gireth P.

·         “Responsible.” -ALL OF THEM.

3- Please, be a man of ministry: I believe that, if women want a real Christian man, they also want a church-committed Christian man. A church-committed, ministry-working man is a man that is all about service. A man of service in his church and in his family is a man women can trust with her spiritual needs and push her into serving the Lord too:

·         “A man that can work in the things of God because of love, not just commitment.” – Silvia C.

·         “Willing to suffer for the Gospel.” – Claudia V. (Loved this one too…Great expectation.)

·         “I would like to be with a man that works in the Work of the Lord.” – Arelis G.

4- Please, be a family man: There is nothing more hot in a guy, than a guy who is mad crazy about his family. Believe me, IT WORKS. Christian women want to feel secure in their safe haven they would call “Home”. ALL OF THEM agreed in the fact that they want to be with a man that can secure them he can play their part as husband and father. A family leader.

·         “A man who loves and values his family.” – ALL OF THEM

5- Please be a hustler: Lady got some needs! They want to have food on their tables, clothes on their babies, lots of shoes on their closets (just kidding…or not?), they want you to even get them out sometimes you cheap dudes:

·         “A man needs to be professionally honest.” –Merfy R.

·         “A working man.” – Claudia V.

·         “Needs to be proactive in his professional life.” –Ana N.

6- Miscellaneous: These next characteristics, I do believe are just ramifications of the main 5:

·         Disciplined

·         Delicate

·         Organized

·         A Gentleman

·         Caring

·         Loyal

·         Sincere

·         Not cocky

7- Good looking? : This is funny, because only ONE girl put this one on her list. And it’s not even in the top of it! But at least she was honest with herself with the fact that she wants to be with a guy she actually likes! That’s commendable. Now, for those guys who are actually struggling with some “attractiveness-less” problems, I have some personal advices for you, so you can start looking dapper from now on (read it with the heavenly voice tone):

·         TAKE A SHOWER!

·         BRUSH YOUR TEETH!

·         SHAVE! Or just trim it and take care of the bush.

·         PUT ON CLEAN CLOTHES!

·         CUT YOUR HAIR! If long: TAKE CARE OF YOUR HAIR!

·         WASH YOUR HAIR!

·         AT LEAST IRON YOUR SHIRTS!

·         CORRECT YOUR POSTURE!

·         MODULE YOUR VOICE!

·         TRY TO CONTROL YOUR WEIGTH! Do not try to become John Cena, they don’t need that, but please, take care of yourself, ok?

·         BE YOURSELF!

This has been a long post. I had fun reading all the feedback I received, and it made me think about myself a lot. Maybe this is because I’m still single; there must be something wrong with me. (Just kidding…or not?) But anyways, these words come from real women (some married, some single) that know the struggle. This is a call to work in our character, not in our six-packs. We need to become…well, real men. Life is not about our childish and selfish desires. It is all about becoming the reflection of the Christ leading His Church. The key is pretty simple and pretty radical:

 
²⁵ For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her ²⁶ to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. ²⁷ He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. ²⁸ In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. ²⁹ No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. -  Ephesians 5:25-29

PS.: I want to thank the girls that helped me into this poll: Alina, Ana, Chrystell, Silvia, Arelis, Claudia, Dahiana, Sara, Fior, Jenny, Laura, Sarah, Merfy, Pam, Gissel and Gireth. Appreciate it a lot!