What’s the point of falling in love, anyways? Part II
Why do humans fall in love?
Why do humans need to care, feel, touch other human being? Why do we actually care about our feelings? Why do we get attached to other people’s opinion, tastes, decisions, likes and dislikes?
That’s why I gotta ask myself these questions too:
If it is NOT about physical attraction, neither chemistry; if is NOT about looking for pleasure but to self-sacrifice; if it is NOT about your own happiness; if the only one who can love the true way is God, and to love one another is to show and proclaim His glory alone; if we suffer because of it, and we tend to make the wrong decisions all the time… If love is NOT about US:
What’s the point of falling in love, anyways?
In this episode: What the heck is going on with love at first sight?
Wait, love at first sight? The Bible doesn't talk about it!
I beg your pardon? Read with me:
64 When Rebekah looked up and saw Isaac, she quickly dismounted from her camel. 65 “Who is that man walking through the fields to meet us?” she asked the servant. And he replied, “It is my master.” So Rebekah covered her face with her veil. 66 Then the servant told Isaac everything he had done.
67 And Isaac brought Rebekah into his mother Sarah’s tent, and she became his wife. He loved her deeply, and she was a special comfort to him after the death of his mother. (Gen. 24:64-67)
What. The. Heck. Was. That?
Or, or, or, what about this one?
9 Jacob was still talking with them when Rachel arrived with her father’s flock, for she was a shepherd. 10 And because Rachel was his cousin—the daughter of Laban, his mother’s brother—and because the sheep and goats belonged to his uncle Laban, Jacob went over to the well and moved the stone from its mouth and watered his uncle’s flock. 11 Then Jacob kissed Rachel, and he wept aloud. 12 He explained to Rachel that he was her cousin on her father’s side—the son of her aunt Rebekah. So Rachel quickly ran and told her father, Laban. (Gen. 29:9-11)
Is this love at first sight or not? Adam got freaked out (in the good way) when he saw Eve for the first time. That's love at first sight. Those guys just KNEW that the woman they were meeting for the first time was their soulmate. Does God still joins people that way? Does God uses our emotions and our eyes and our intuition to set us for life to another person, in the first encounter?
Some Jewish scholars put David and Abigail and David and Batsheba relationships as "love at first sight" situations. I could even say that the relationship of Solomon and the Shulamite in the Song of Solomon, could be a "love at first sight" situation as well. Young Christian couples all around the world defend their decisions based in these stories, and in the base of "revelations", "answered 'prayers' ", "instant chemistry", "God's Sovereignity", "Predestination"...(I'm joking now)
But the point is, a lot of us desire with all of our hearts to live that experience of connecting with someone in such an emotional level, just because of one encounter. It sounds amazing, but is more dangerous than we can imagine.
Hollywood and "modern literature" have brainwashed us toward romanticism, the perfect love story, and butterflies in our stomachs. Celebrities champion it on the media, and bazillions of pre-teens and teenagers (and some young adults too) still look for it under the rocks. Love at first sight. Aw.
My thesis: Love at first sight is the silliest thing of all time.
Why: Let's go to the love definition according to Paul:
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1st. Cor. 13:4-7)
So, knowing these things, do you actually think you can become patient and kind, humble and meek with a person, with just one encounter? Can we base a decision to serve and to self-sacrifice for another person, with just one encounter? Remember this, guys and girls: Any person can become anything they want to be in order to impress a person. You never see their true colors in a first-sight situation. That's not love, that's infatuation!
Love is made by time, and a real intention of investing yourself in the other person. Love is about self-sacrificing yourself (metaphorically and literally) for the well-being of the other. Love is all about being vulnerable and broken in front of others. Love is all about giving your life for the other. There is no love at first sight. It is definitely attraction at first sight. That can happen all the time.
We need to protect ourselves from the lies of the world and the lies of our own heart. We tend to try to emulate the stories we read or listen but we ought to live the love story God has for us; it will be more exciting that any other love story ever, cuz it's gonna be ours.
64 When Rebekah looked up and saw Isaac, she quickly dismounted from her camel. 65 “Who is that man walking through the fields to meet us?” she asked the servant. And he replied, “It is my master.” So Rebekah covered her face with her veil. 66 Then the servant told Isaac everything he had done.
67 And Isaac brought Rebekah into his mother Sarah’s tent, and she became his wife. He loved her deeply, and she was a special comfort to him after the death of his mother. (Gen. 24:64-67)
What. The. Heck. Was. That?
Or, or, or, what about this one?
9 Jacob was still talking with them when Rachel arrived with her father’s flock, for she was a shepherd. 10 And because Rachel was his cousin—the daughter of Laban, his mother’s brother—and because the sheep and goats belonged to his uncle Laban, Jacob went over to the well and moved the stone from its mouth and watered his uncle’s flock. 11 Then Jacob kissed Rachel, and he wept aloud. 12 He explained to Rachel that he was her cousin on her father’s side—the son of her aunt Rebekah. So Rachel quickly ran and told her father, Laban. (Gen. 29:9-11)
Is this love at first sight or not? Adam got freaked out (in the good way) when he saw Eve for the first time. That's love at first sight. Those guys just KNEW that the woman they were meeting for the first time was their soulmate. Does God still joins people that way? Does God uses our emotions and our eyes and our intuition to set us for life to another person, in the first encounter?
Some Jewish scholars put David and Abigail and David and Batsheba relationships as "love at first sight" situations. I could even say that the relationship of Solomon and the Shulamite in the Song of Solomon, could be a "love at first sight" situation as well. Young Christian couples all around the world defend their decisions based in these stories, and in the base of "revelations", "answered 'prayers' ", "instant chemistry", "God's Sovereignity", "Predestination"...(I'm joking now)
But the point is, a lot of us desire with all of our hearts to live that experience of connecting with someone in such an emotional level, just because of one encounter. It sounds amazing, but is more dangerous than we can imagine.
Hollywood and "modern literature" have brainwashed us toward romanticism, the perfect love story, and butterflies in our stomachs. Celebrities champion it on the media, and bazillions of pre-teens and teenagers (and some young adults too) still look for it under the rocks. Love at first sight. Aw.
My thesis: Love at first sight is the silliest thing of all time.
Why: Let's go to the love definition according to Paul:
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1st. Cor. 13:4-7)
So, knowing these things, do you actually think you can become patient and kind, humble and meek with a person, with just one encounter? Can we base a decision to serve and to self-sacrifice for another person, with just one encounter? Remember this, guys and girls: Any person can become anything they want to be in order to impress a person. You never see their true colors in a first-sight situation. That's not love, that's infatuation!
Love is made by time, and a real intention of investing yourself in the other person. Love is about self-sacrificing yourself (metaphorically and literally) for the well-being of the other. Love is all about being vulnerable and broken in front of others. Love is all about giving your life for the other. There is no love at first sight. It is definitely attraction at first sight. That can happen all the time.
We need to protect ourselves from the lies of the world and the lies of our own heart. We tend to try to emulate the stories we read or listen but we ought to live the love story God has for us; it will be more exciting that any other love story ever, cuz it's gonna be ours.
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