Bad Teacher

 Teachers have always been a very important figure for a child. They are the persons who provide a mean to learning, wisdom and growth for every generation who is coming. Teachers become a parenthood franchise at school, and important role models that will prevail in the mind of a person, according to how good or bad they were. I remember all the teachers I had over the course of time, and I’ve been blessed to be in their classes. They cherished me, they took care of me and they guided me to maturity and love for education and learning. Because of them, I want to be a teacher myself.

To be a teacher is a great responsibility, because it is a position of big influence. A teacher can mold a personality toward greatness or else, toward personal misery.

That being said, yesterday I just saw a post on 9gag showing how many young female teachers have been accused for sexual relationships with students the last year. I also read the news of a porn star who was an elementary school teacher and denounced that she got fired because of that.

Pardon the lack of censorship: What the Fuck.

God forgive me for saying what’s in the mind of the parents who just read the news. God forgive me for saying what’s in the minds of the parents of the victims. God forgive me for saying what’s in the minds of good teachers and educators all over the world.

What. The. Fuck.

Let’s get real: In one corner you got a bunch of twenty-something year old women becoming teachers, with some crazy issues and personal situations; lurking into the minds of young boys in middle and high school. These women have their stuff going on, maybe they want revenge on a boyfriend, maybe they have daddy issues, maybe they have a type of sexual frustration; I don’t care. What I don’t really understand is the concern of ending a boy’s innocence. It is not sexy at all. It is not platonic. It is disgustingly wretched and it has consequences that are very hard to erase. They are ruining a child’s mind, personality and future forever, and they are ruining themselves.

In the other corner, we have a generic 14-18 year old teen, with a hormone volcano between his pants and with no self-control at all, fantasizing about his teacher all day long. His idea of manhood has been molded by what he sees in movies, videogames and porn, and his desire for bragging rights is so deep, he wants to show his friends he is the man, by hooking up with his teacher. Poor fool doesn’t realize he is doing emotional and spiritual seppuku. Manhood is not measured by the quantity of women you have had sex with, neither how “hot” they were. Manhood is not measured by how many wretched fantasies can be fulfilled in one’s sex life, neither how often you do it. God created man, and He is the One who created the standard of manhood. God’s standard of manhood is so great, that it calls us to sacrifice ourselves for others. It calls us to become self-controlled. It calls us to love in truth (1 Cor. 13:4-8), and in all times. It calls us to enjoy sex only under the cover of marriage and to honor our spouse. It calls us to live a godly life and to grow into physical, emotional and spiritual maturity (what is good and just and approved by God).

Let’s not get psychological or else. This is a sin problem. It is all about our own hearts and desires. These women have rejected the knowledge of God and surrendered themselves to the overflow of the desires of their flesh (Romans 1:24). The same with the kids, they haven’t fled youthful passions (2 Tim. 2:22), and have listened to the voice of the enemy telling them that the forbidden is pleasurable. I would like to add that parents have to do in this scenario too: their lack of leadership, mentoring and real parenting per se, is killing our kids mentally, because they prefer to trust a teacher (without knowing any hidden intention or doubled standard) rather than their own parents. They rather talk with their teachers about sex and relationships, than with their parents. Some folks don’t realize that PARENTS ARE THE FIRST TEACHERS A KID GETS. Parents need to have the “birds and bees’ talk”. Parents need to show their teen children the reality of this gritty world we are living in. Parents have the duty of protecting their children even if it means to “invade their privacy”. If you have children, you will be held accountable for your child. I’m not saying you will put a freaking GPS on your kid, or having a bodyguard following him every way. However, it means you need to become the friend they need and the guide they lack. They know you won’t hurt them.

                 

In a different tenor, I hate the media hypocrisy: public goes nuts when male teachers abuse and molest young girls (and I’m not saying that they shouldn’t), but they glorify the boy who has just been abused by an adult, calling it: ‘manhood’ or ‘growing up’. The media get nuts when they find the mainstream celebrity makes a mistake concerning his sexual life, but they want to present the porn star as a kind of a victimized hero.

I’m going to be honest with you, guys: Things like that, terrifies me. I’m a soccer coach of my old academy’s female team. It’s full with teenage girls, to which I’m a big brother figure. I’m in a very risky position that by the grace of God, I’ve been able to perform with honor and dignity for several months. I want to be a teacher. It terrifies me the fact that I also can fall from grace and get crazy too. I pray for protection and power from above in order to not sin against God neither hurt a life forever. It makes me think about my future. I need to become more mature and grounded in Scripture, in order to flee sin and love God and my neighbor.

Teachers have the high calling of being second parents to kids in our times. Teachers have the high calling of passing on the next generation the values and teachings of old ones. Teachers have the high calling of leading the future men and women into becoming the future men and women. So, let’s become aware of our sinful and dirty heart. Let’s give it out to God and let’s confess our sin. Let’s start loving those kids in honor, truth and compassion; not trying to look for our own in any way possible neither physical or psychological.

Dads and moms: Let’s keep an eye on our children. Predators come in many forms. Now we realize that a teacher can be one of them. Let’s check their social media feeds. Let’s check their phone messages. A serious conversation can save the kid’s innocence and even his life. Talk to him about sex, porn, relationships, women…about anything he has doubts. But most importantly: talk to him about Jesus Christ. He is the best role model of manhood he can ever know. He is the One who teaches us how to live a godly life, how to be responsible, how to be a man of honor. He is the best Teacher a child can get in order to become a fine man.