Anybody Can "Get in Love" with a Nice Body

A relationship is based in a decision: who are we gonna pick as our sweethearts. But as men we need to be careful. Our eyes deceive us pretty much all the times. This is because we actually take our decisions with our eyes instead than our hearts. 

We need to be honest with something: we appreciate beauty in a woman, and of course we do want to be with a beautiful woman by our side. But what do you consider beautiful in a beautiful woman? Clean skin, amazing smile, delicate chin, pretty eyes, swan neck, nice breasts, thin waist, curvy legs? Just that? It sounds pretty basic to me.

Because it is exactly what everybody is only looking! 

We men are pretty simplistic in our choices. Women are more detailed concerning what they want in a man. They look for personality, character, economical strength, integrity and other features. But we just want a nice body.

Now, how many fine bodies can we find outside? There are millions of smoking hot beautiful women in the whole world, some of them single and willing to pursue something good! And that's ok, I guess. But I know that you know IT'S NOT ENOUGH. It doesn't fill your heart. Looking for these physical features is nothing special compared for the real search of a person who you can call "flesh of your flesh and bones of your bones." The truth is: Anybody can "get in love" with a nice body.

If a skinny girl dresses in an especific way, she can look exactly the way you like curvy girls. If a chubby girl walks in an especific way, she can look exactly the way you like fit girls. They all have feminine bodies; is just that some show it, some doesn't. It is idiotic to be focused only in how a girl looks to make her a candidate. Tons of Christian men do this often.

It sounds even bad, but it's the truth! We are visual. And we tend not to see what is important. Let's face it: You get the bombshell. Now what? How do you relate to her heart? Do you even care about her emotional wellness and that real intimacy that occurs between hearts? Is she your trophy girlfriend? Do you wants to pursue a godly life by her side? Do you want to protect her heart by respecting her body? Will you care about her when her beauty starts to fade away with time? Did you get interested in her just because she is hot?

Let yourself be chastened by Solomon's wisdom: 

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
       but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. (Prov. 31:30)

At the end of the day you won't be looking for bodies. Chronos will strike silently and kill the youth in our bodies. A woman is so much more than a 90-60-90. They are soul and mind, and part of the grace of God over us. Beauty won't last. If you look for a fine babe, your decision has been made over something temporary and completely vain. 

Men, let yourselves be chastened by God talking to Samuel:

⁷ But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

We are called to lead a woman. Not an object. We are called to sacrifice ourselves for the good of that woman, not to expect only her beauty and sexuality to satisfy our desires. We are called to look at her heart. We are called to fall in love with her heart. That's the difference between real love and lust. Anybody can get attracted to an attractive woman. Now, can you get in love with a real woman, despite how she looks and who she is?

That's the challenge.